Recently, a 51-year-old widower named Guy friended me on Facebook and sent me this message about his midlife sexual re-awakening. I was so moved by the tenderness of his story that I asked him if I could reprint it verbatim here. Luckily, he said yes.
I’m a 51-year-old only parent to 11 and 14-year-old girls. I lost my wife to a 3-year battle against breast cancer in early 2014. Of course the number one priority has been raising the children. As far as finding a feminine connection, I was unsure and just plain scared. While my wife was sick intimate contact did not happen. My confidence in being able to attract another love was shaky, to say the least. I thought that the sexual side of my life may have been a thing that had passed.
I have met an age-appropriate 50-year-old lady who has supported me and seen me through my grieving. That type of emotional intimacy has led us to an equally intense physical intimacy. I was someone who thought his most gratifying sexual days were behind him. Boy, was I wrong.
She is a stunning woman. We have found that at this stage in our lives we are experiencing a new sexual awakening. We both have had stages in previous relationships where we could go months, or in my case years, without any intimate contact at all. Now at our mature age we seem to not be able to have each other enough.
Reading your work gave me hope of finding a lover who at our age could be every bit as exciting and sexual as anything from my 50s. Finding this love has given me hope for a bright future. I hope that you have many more interesting stories yet to tell.
If you’re a midlifer with a personal story of sexual rebirth that you’d like to share e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.