Inspired by French author Francois Roland‘s book on how to live a more sensual life, 52-year-old blogger Audrey van Petegem took boudoir selfies to reignite her sexuality. Read on to learn more about her journey, excerpted from this HuffPost 50 piece.
I am here to tell you that to look at yourself in a mirror is very different than seeing a photo of yourself. Initially I was taking photos with my face in them and I found I was paying too much attention on how I “looked” as opposed to studying my body. When I took my face out of the equation it became a very personal and sensual journey to self enlightenment. I saw the good, the bad and, quite frankly, the ugly.
But what also surprised me was that I was a little turned on by my body. It was indeed sexy and desirable. I started playing with different locations, lighting and so on. I started dressing provocatively, such as with just my husband’s shirt on.
These photos have completely transformed our marriage. Our sex life, of course, has changed over the years with all sorts of ups and downs, with my libido waning to almost nonexistence over these last few years. My husband would always say to me, “What can I do?” and I always rebutted saying that it was not about him but me.
Since I have learned to enjoy my aging body by touching it, looking at it and appreciating it for what it is, it has, in turn, wanted me to be touched, to be seen and yes, desired. It has brought back much of the joy in our lovemaking.