Rebecca Perkins is the embodiment of a triumphant midlife woman. A women’s empowerment coach in London, this 51-year-old talks about her exodus from depression and repression into an abundant life post-5o.
Major upheaval began when I was 47. I ended my 21-year marriage, my oldest left for university, my teenage daughter was recovering from anorexia and my youngest son was struggling with school and that was before I acknowledged the emotional scars of almost a decade of depression. I felt like a dried-up husk. My life felt over. I had no purpose.
Yet…there was a feeling somewhere deep inside that I could change that. I could witness my own renaissance if I had the courage to do so. I began to write in my journal and tentatively began to show it to my close friends. My writing echoed with their feelings of being midlife. I charted my progress out of this hiatus. I reconnected with my sexual self, my spiritual self, my emotional self, and I began to like what I saw and what I was witnessing. Spring again. It was good.
It is five years on, and my life couldn’t be more different. I am happier, more content, more confident than ever before in my life. I have a deep sense of purpose and joy. I love myself and am at peace with who I am. I know that it has been the hardships, the pain and the grief that have led me to this place. I love being in my 50s! I love the wisdom, the experience, the sense of adventure, the self-confidence, the possibilities — I love the choices that I have.
The past five years have been an incredible awakening for me and I’m ready for the second half of my life. My purpose and pleasure now is to inspire other women through this transition at midlife as a coach, an author, and now a midlife dating expert! I could never have imagined this was possible in the dark days before midlife.
All power to us midlife women!